5 Goals

Every New Years my goal is to work on my self esteem. Every day I tell myself that I am going to work on my self esteem, but I tend not to. I just let my words slide on by and not put any effort into fulfilling what I said I was going to do that day.Either I forget or just don't want to work on it.

 I want to have a better self esteem, I don't want to procrastinate on my self image anymore. I want to love myself to the fullest, more than I have ever loved anyone. Look in the mirror and seeing something beautiful, priceless and something special, rather than worthless and unloved. It's an amazing feeling to see yourself for the real and amazing you, working and trying and believing it's actually true after all that time of not knowing that it really was.

When ever I think I am ugly, worthless, unloved, and hated, I think about the times when I am at my lowest and how awful I am feeling in that moment and how shitty I felt. Then I realize that I don't want to live my life feeling like that all of that time. I WANT to love myself. I WANT to be happy with what I look like.

I am me and I cannot change that, nor do I want to.

I have a list of five simple steps to changing my self esteem to something better.

#1 Tell myself that I am beautiful every single day in the mirror with a smile on my face and true, real meaning behind it.

#2 Write in a journal, that is especially for my self esteem, every night, complimenting myself. Things that I am good at, how I did a good job at doing something. How I am a good friend, daughter, aunt, sister, cousin, or niece.

#3 Start following through with my words and stop telling myself and other people that I am going to do something and not do it. Stop procrastinating with something that is so valuable to me at this moment in my soon to be adult life.

#4 Accept people's compliments and not deny them when they are given to me.

Just say a simple thank you, and possibles compliment them back. But only if I actually think they look good and/or like something about them.

#5 Last but not least, be honest with myself, if I really think I look good, say it. It doesn't matter what other people say or think. They are no better than me if they are cruel and ignorant.

Do/Don't Essay

Let me tell you the best kept secrets about relationship. They are amazing. A few hard things about relationships are, you have to have good communication with each other, if you don't communicate things will be hard. You need to have respect for the person too.

I don't mean to imply that relationships will be easy because they aren't. But you can be the best things if you are committed and happy. It is also good that the other person if happy too.

Talking behind their back is something that could end that relationship. I know from experience and I wasn't the one who was saying stuff behind their back. You should have a good friendship too.

I have collected a brief list on do's and don't about creating successful relationships.

DO: With family, you should get along and if you don't then that isn't a good relationship. 

DON'T: Take advantage of the person the you are in a relationship with or have a relationship with, life is too short, why not take thing into consideration and enjoy them.

DO: Do nice things for the person, take them out to eat or take them to a place that the enjoy going to, it doesn't always have to be a date either.

DON'T: Cheat. If you are in an intimate relationship, don't cheat on the person. It hurts them and it can hurt you too. It could also give you a bad reputation.

DO: Listen, if you listen to a person they a more willing to talk to you because they know you care and know that you want to hear what they have to say.

DON'T: Ignore them, you could end up losing that person. Yeah maybe a little time and space from that person could be helpful. But don't just stop talking to them and once you start talking to them, don't expect them to be nice and accept you back like you had never left.

DO: If you compliment the person you have a relationship with, intimate or not. They would probably be more willing to be around you but don't let them take advantage of you and them only want to be around you JUST because you compliment them.